Apologies for joining late, and perhaps you have already tried and discounted this approach, but: Have you tried adding:
(push '(fullscreen . maximized) default-frame-alist)
or perhaps
(push '(fullscreen . maximized) initial-frame-alist)
to early-init? I put the first above line in ~/.emacs.d/early-init.el, and got an initially maximized window under an odd Wayland+XWayland system as well as Win 11. I don't have reasonable access to either a more typical X11, Wayland, or macOS system right now.
The key is to put it in early-init.el, which is consulted before emacs makes any windows in any window system. Also worth noting: if you end up with conflicting elisp settings and X resources, there are a variety of ways for the latter to silently override the former. You can check this with "xrdb -query" (you might want to run this in a shell buffer or pipe it to a pager).
Hope this helps,
~Chad